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Just a Rant - Nothing to See, Move Along - dorsetgirl
November 18th, 2008
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Just a Rant - Nothing to See, Move Along
So people are talking about Christmas all over the place. Meh. I'd like a present this year.

Just a present, that's all. A real one. One that someone has thought about, gone out and bought - or sent via Amazon, I'm not fussy - wrapped up, and given to me on fucking Christmas Day.

I mean, my mum and my mil both give me money, for which I'm very grateful, but it's just too easy to spend it on the food shopping when I'm short.

I can't remember the last time I got a present that qualified under my definition. Quite possibly 1989. (My ex and I were actually excellent at getting each other a heap of ten books each and not duplicating a single one, hence twenty new books to read).

Those of my kids still at primary school - only one this year - get to buy presents at a Christmas Present Fayre at the school, which means I get the present, which is lovely. (The thought is, definitely). I may even get it wrapped. But I have to accept it on the day it's bought otherwise it disappears never to be seen again.

About six years ago I actually wrote a detailed list and presented it to OH. He did his best, although he's only a man. He went out and bought three things that bore 40% resemblance to the items on my list (right band, album I've already got, right authors, books ditto). He didn't wrap them and he didn't remember to give them to me until a couple of days after Christmas.

Oh, tell a lie, I got a brilliant book from the TRA meetup Secret Santa last year, which was wrapped and everything, but of course not on Christmas Day. (It was wonderfully educational, but I think I was actually happier when I didn't know what felching is *g*).

Last year I think I got two things on the day, both of which made me happy, but again neither totally qualified. Item (1) is a LOM calendar - a lovely friend of mine texted to say she'd been given two and would I like one. Well, I got the text on the day, not the calendar itself, obviously. Item (2) is the totally gorgeous picture of JS as The Master which was on the box my youngest's Laser Screwdriver came in. I got that to a place of safety under guise of taking out the rubbish.

All of which probably explains why I drank my "just for the cook, OK, all fucking mine" bottle of wine quicker than usual on the day, got pissed, burnt the dinner and sent embarrassing emails to friends as soon as I got a chance to get on the computer.

I think I'm just being unrealistic here, but it's been one of those weeks where I actually think about creating a whole new LJ simply to get out all the bitching and upset.


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Date:November 18th, 2008 01:14 pm (UTC)

beware ze caps lock...

OMFG, what the HELL?????

Love, the problem here is this:
I think I'm just being unrealistic here...

Because, NO YOU ARE NOT BEING UNREALISTIC. Now mind, I'm an atheist, I don't celebrate Christmas, okay? But the point is, if you and yours DO, then expecting a thoughtful gift ON Christmas day all wrapped up nice and pretty FOR YOU is EXACTLY what you are supposed to expect. *nods in aggravation*

I can't say I know how to solve this, as I barely understand your situation with your OH and I know the children demand a lot of you. I have no solutions. But I am HERE to tell you that YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED AND APPRECIATED and I don't just mean someone saying 'thanks.' A gift *represents* the affection and respect a person holds for you; that is really the point of it, not the damn object itself.

Wow, listen to me rant. But seriously, this just enrages me, because what you are asking for? You should NOT have to ask for. grrrrrrrrrrrr

Bitch away, 'cause boy howdy have you got the right. If you start another LJ, let me know, please? Oh I set mine (this one, not the other one) to Friends Only, but I've friended you, so you can still read it.

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Date:November 18th, 2008 03:30 pm (UTC)
I completely agree that you're not being unrealistic. Alas, but you must voice this desire out loud to the persons in a position to buy / wrap / give said presents. And frankly, "he's only a man" don't cut it, because mine can manage to get exactly what's written down provided it is written down.

Tell these people (OH and kids) that Christmas morning (or afternoon, or whenever) you're all sitting down together and handing out prettily wrapped presents to each other, and anybody who shows up unprepared (minus gifts, or gifts not wrapped) will join the crowd and be publicly shamed during the process, and anybody who runs because they forgot will be verbally castrated by those that do show. And if it doesn't happen after this Grand Announcement, pitch a ring-tailed paddy. And maybe Don't Cook At All. They don't wanna celebrate Christmas, they don't get a Christmas feast. Let 'em fend for themselves.

Whoo - can you tell I've been on a bit of a rampage m'self lately?
Date:November 19th, 2008 05:12 pm (UTC)
I'm seconding the Don't Cook at All boycott. *evil grin*

Rampage away. Live large! Get presents!!!!

*points to Livin' Large icon*
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Date:November 18th, 2008 03:37 pm (UTC)
Oh, hon. I have no advice to give, only a massive hug via the internet. Not much consolation, I'll grant you, but heartfelt nevertheless ♥.
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